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Better: Not Perfect Soul Care Workbook

Chapter #5 Finding Love: Flawed, Imperfect but still Deserving

Lessons From My Heart To Yours


For real love to exist, there must be authentic communication that respects boundaries and no-go zones, but still speaks truth in love, holds our tongue when angry, and always, always stays loyal and puts the relationship and family conversation first then makes a real decision to ride out the rough times to a better day. Authentic conversations come when you learn who you are, what you like, and what you don’t want.



God isn’t waiting for you to be perfect, worthy, or deserving to bring love your way. Love will come in if you are open and if it’s part of the creator’s plan for your life. All you need to do is to be as ready as you can be, Better. Not Perfect. Learning to love oneself is part of the preparation that needs to take place for the openness to happen.



If your spouse is like you, in the lab, being prepared for the big reveal, you want them to find you as a work in progress, making progress and vice versa.

A Look Inside Your Heart: A Journaling Activity

Free write: When you cross paths with your mate, you want them to find you not just in a state of a Human “Doing” but a Human “Being.” What does “being” look like for you What are the top three things that you love about you and that you most enjoy doing? why are those things important to you?

A Look Inside Your Head: Getting Clear Exercise

How well do you know relationship you? Take some time to research some of the questions that couples answer in pre-marital counseling. Questions like

  1. In what ways do I show love?

  2. How well do I communicate? Do I discuss issues as they arise or deal with them later or not at all?

  3. What does a successful marriage look like to me?

  4. What are the top five most important attributes that I bring to a marriage?


Next: No better time than the present to prepare for a health relationship and marriage. If you haven’t already read “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” grab a copy and get ready.

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