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Better: Not Perfect 
Soul Care Workbook

Chapter 2: First you dig, then you build: Laying the foundation that builds a girl into a woman

Lessons From My Heart To Yours

  1. There were things that I experienced as a child that I was unable to understand and process that left unaddressed, stood as barriers to healing. I wish that I started therapy sooner because I would have healed sooner. That said, no regrets, because I am getting “Better” now, every day.

  2. Easier said than done, but don’t get busy to get over grief. In the short term it’s okay, but when things become panaceas, they can become unhealthy coping mechanisms.

  3. The same way that we invest money towards retirement, we should put emotional money in the bank to be there for when we need to make a withdrawal and give some of that love away to another, a partner, a child, a friend, a stranger. You can’t overdraw your emotional account and think that you will be able to meet your own emotional needs.

A Look Inside Your Heart: A Journal Activity

  1. How did this chapter speak to you? Where did you relate? See yourself?

  2. What patterns do you hear consistently in the feedback of those who know you best or love you best?

A Look Inside Your Head: Getting Clear Exercise:

Scaffolding is an important feature on a construction site. Who holds you up during your building process. Create a list of your supports, personal and professional. Do you have mentors, a therapist, a friend you can talk to about anything, a close family confidant? Plan in advance for a meltdown. They come to all of us. If you don’t have a therapist, spiritual advisor, or mentor, start the research now. Friends are good for general advice but when the real storms of life come you need a professional. Storms at work call for a good mentor. Mental and emotional storms require a trained professional so put together a “Break glass in case of emergency “list of 5 Therapists whose offices you have called to verify that they are taking new patients and take your insurance. That’s it, no commitment beyond that. Each day, just google search a few and write down at least 5 names then if feeling like you want to do some prevention work and do a mental health wellness checkup, make the call now. If not ready for that yet, put the list in an easy to find location so that when the storm comes (and it will) you will have a ready-made list of places to call to try to get a first available appointment.

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